Being a Great Friend, Despite an Anxiety Disorder

If people don’t know what’s going on, anxious friends can end up looking like jerks. I’m a high functioning anxious person and am often able to hide my...

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Thunder Lily

She bursts into bloom
from a wild and furious storm.
Her fire fueled by lightning,
voice powered by thunder
roaring from deep within her belly.

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Vitruvian Woman

I have a friend who liked me better when I was smaller.
She’d prefer me tightly wrapped; fears on the inside pulsing between my muscles, pressing against my skin...

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Subjunctive

I wish I’d known
That you’d been hurt before
That your cold-shoulder act was just a shield
To hide the battle-scars you wore...

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Cover Image: Love Yourself

Love Yourself

If I could go back, I'd tell my younger self,
"It's ok. You're doing great. Don't change."
But mostly, I'd say this...
"You are loved...

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If You Can’t Love Yourself…

I believe we’ve been taught how to love wrongly. Be it the films where love is proven by punching the new boyfriend in the rain, or the way your friend comforted you...

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Table For One

I have a table for one booked this Valentines day, to celebrate the relationship I have built with myself. My self-love was smelted in the fires of surviving the hardest of times...

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Cover Image: Business Kiss

Business Kiss

"You doing okay?"
"Tired."
"Let me know if you need time alone."
"Okay."
"Shake on it?"

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Intimacy! (with anxiety)

Growing up, I wasn’t a very sexual person at all, and the idea of being intimate with someone in any way made me feel sick...

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Do You Have To Love Yourself?

I remember scrolling through Instagram a few years ago as a young, naïve and wholly inexperienced fifteen year old and pausing on a picture of a quote...

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Crawling

Crawling 2 u
Gripped to the floor beneath me
I'm hungry for what we have
But I need it again
Give in to me, no holds barred...

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You

I close my eyes.
I see you, us
What we are and what we could be
And I catch my reflection, smiling.
She's happy.

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Love Is All

When I was a wee girl, love was safety and warmth; the strong arms of mum rescuing me from danger, the soft material of dad’s jumper as I snuggled closer...

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Wet Your Appetite

It’s a funny thing.
When you wet your lips.
And bite down hard.
On the way love has come upon you.
It’s a funny thing ...

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How Polyamory Helped Me Heal After a Toxic Relationship

It’s usually a good idea to spend some time single after the end of a relationship. It gives us the time and space to refocus. It can take a while to unstitch ourselves...

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Image: Phone keyboard

Don’t Text When Drunk

I dipped myself in icing sugar,
Made myself appealing,
Powdered over the neediness,
The anger, the feelings ...

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A Letter to You: the Things I’ll Never Say to my Unfaithful Ex

A letter to you, I haven't spoken to you since I found out and I hate that you'll think I'm in the wrong for never giving you a chance to explain but I know I'm not...

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Heartbeat

I don’t need
to enlist photographs
to reassure me of your gaze,
as the penetration
of your eyes
is emblazoned on my face ...

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Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams in The Notebook

Passion or Dysfunction? Hollywood’s Unhealthy Love Model

The first moment you see him, you know. The second he steps onto the cinema screen. He’s handsome. He’s sweet. He treats the heroine with unrelenting kindness...

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Confessions of an Ungrateful Wretch

I wasn’t quite expecting to have a baby when I did. It was July, not September. It was too early and everything was going wrong...

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Just Roll With It: How Enjoying My Body Saved My Mind

They say that when you’re depressed, you lose interest in many things that, once upon a time, made you feel alive...

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